I’m sure that almost everyone has dealt with insecurities in their life for at least one time. I have dealt with insecurities for many times. But how did I overcome them? I will tell you a secret.
When I was a younger girl, I had to deal with insecurities, “hate” and bullying. Especially when I got to an elementary school, right after my mum and dad separated. My father moved to America, and my mum took us, kids, to go back to Germany. Like many other children, I thought it was all because of me and my sister. I thought that I wasn’t good enough. That he doesn’t want to see me, but of course that was not the point. Many kids got through that situation, and I feel sorry for every child who makes this experience because when your parents separate and when one part of your parents moves far away from you, it hurts.
I was very shy when I came to elementary school. Kids can be very mean, and they immediately realise when you are or feel different. I only had a slight group of friends back then. The Children where sometimes really mean and didn’t understand me. They didn’t have the indulgence with me that it needs for me to trust someone.
When I was seven years old, I got a karaoke machine for my birthday, and that was the birth of my love for music. I sang for hours and hours in my room with my karaoke machine, putting my stuff animals in a circle and sang for them whilst all the other kids in my age would probably play outside with their friends. I had a best friend for 18 years which I thought will always be there for me, will always hold my back but behind my back, she was mean, didn’t grant me my toys and stole them from me because of her jealousy. She found it funny when I was sad because of here playing with another friend and didn’t want me to play with them. That made me insecure.
The more I got older, the more people I got to now. I don’t come from a low-income family. My mum has great taste in fashion and always cared about the environment we live and grow up. She always wanted the best for us and wanted us to have a carefree childhood and not to see us the bad side of this world. And growing up in a nice house, in a healthy environment,to have a passion and to be ambitious, can make people misunderstand you and sometimes also envious.
Negative people and children when I was younger surrounded me for many many years. And there is one thing that many people l love to do. People like to bitch.
When I did my first music video and shared my music with my facebook ( I had many people on my Facebook back then) a gigantic wave of opinions, criticism came over me. I was 17 back then. To deal with something like that can be very overwhelming for a young girl and I have big respect in front of those confident Hollywood kids who grow up in front of million peoples eyes. I believed in me at that time, and I thought nobody could stop me. But when I realised that even if they’re a lot of supportive people around me, there were also mean people, laughing about me behind my back it broke my heart. And again I had to face that the little monster called “Insecure”.
“The moment you do something else then all the others you can and WILL get hate for it.”
The moment you do something else then all the others in front of many people you can and will get hate for it. I don’t know why that is but that is how this world is. You probably won’t get hate from your friends, family or people who know you in person – I HOPE not! But in the world of social media, for example, there is always someone who has nothing to with their live than just hate a random person. I would never in my life laugh or hate about someone who is sharing and doing what they love as long it doesn’t “hurt” anyone. The more positive you are, the more positivity you’ll get. If you hate on people and be jealous and talk mean things behind someone’s back, you will feel bad. Because you are spreading hate, and this is what you will receive.
I got very insecure by making these experiences. But there is a secret. A secret that everyone can learn, and everybody will gain by exposing. Although there is always people who don’t like you, there will also always be people who WILL like you. You can’t be friends with everyone, and it is IMPOSSIBLE that anyone in this world will like you. Rather in friendships or in doing your business.
I have a great relationship with my dad today, and he told me this. Concentrate on the people that like and support you, focus on the talent that you have. Just try to be the best version of your own by really doing what you love, by listening to your heart to do the things that make you happy. Take the good and leave the bad. It is your life. Nobody will live it for you. Just because a person tells you “you have to do this or that to be happy”, “you have to study to have a good job”, “you have to wear a blouse to look professional and to get taken seriously” it doesn’t mean that it works for you as well. You create your future. Life’s what you make out of it. If you want to travel? TRAVEL! If you want to be a street musician? DO IT!
LOVE is always stronger than HATE. The good people will always get what they give and same to the wrong people.
If you feel confident in YOURSELF and you start to get happy with who you are, accept how you look or whatever it is what makes you insecure, everything positive will be with you. It’s your aura what attracts the positive. Have you every read the secret? It’s a book which describes exactly that.
I have a tattoo on my hips saying: “Fear is not real. It’s a product of thoughts you create. Danger is real, but fear is a choice”. Even though I today would never tattoo my body again it’s still my favourite quote.
Fear is not real. It’s a product of thoughts you create. Danger is real, but fear is a choice.
If you know, you are good the way you are, and everything is fine- everything will be okay. There is no reason to be insecure. You are always you. You are who you are.
And you are good how you are. See the good in the people. Compliment other people. Be interested in people. And everything will get back to you. You deserved to be loved.